Limiting Beliefs About Challenging Times…Do You Have Them?

The Gift of Opportunity Often Comes Wrapped in “Problem Wrapping Paper”

Take Away Message: Our beliefs–especially about adversity– affect our level of resilience. If you want to be more resilient, be willing to challenge and update beliefs that don’t serve you.

The Story: Recently, I listened to a podcast interview of a woman who shared her painful story of losing a tremendous sum of money to her fiancé.

She talked about how his behavior, bordering on sociopathy, devastated her both emotionally and financially. I can’t remember what the topic of the interview was, but one aspect of the interview stuck out for me.

When the host asked her about this very difficult chapter of her life and what it taught her, the guest replied very emphatically that she didn’t buy into the philosophy that “there’s something good that comes out of everything” and it annoyed her when people would try to offer that perspective to her.

“Wow,” I thought. “What a limiting belief…especially given how emphatic she is about the ‘truth’ of it.”

Think of how this belief has affected her emotional state, and her ability to learn from the past and from difficult times, and how this, in turn affects her level of resilience.

Also, think of how her certainty acts as a shield, warding off any input that might help her develop a new, more empowering perspective.

Think of how different it would be for her—both emotionally and in terms of potential growth—if she said “Right now I can’t see the good in what happened, but I’m sure there is…and I will find it.”

Even better, what if she held the belief that Napoleon Hill discovered that the most successful people of his time—including Thomas Edison, Alexander Graham Bell, and Henry Ford—held.

“In every adversity is the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”

Just recently, I was listening to a teleseminar from David Neagle where he captured the same eternal principle that Napoleon Hill identified.

He talked about how most people don’t see the miracles waiting to be realized in their lives because they come disguised as problems. They (we) become fixated on the problem and feel afraid, rather than holding the belief that there’s a miracle awaiting us (if we take action).

The Closing Thought: Even if the idea of miracles seems a bit much to you, then think of “breakthrough opportunity” and try on this belief:

“Problems are the wrapping paper that cover the gift of opportunity. To receive our gift, we must first unwrap the paper.”

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